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RECLAIM IT ALL
What Is RECLAIM?
Keys Behavioral Health utilizes the RECLAIM model for all services provided. RECLAIM is a practical framework for taking back your life when it feels out of control. Built on seven key shifts, it guides you step-by-step through calming your nervous system, breaking harmful patterns, setting boundaries, reframing your story, and sustaining positive change. Whether you’re facing infidelity, addiction, trauma, loss, relationship struggles, or simply feeling stuck, RECLAIM offers clear, actionable tools to help you heal, grow, and move forward with clarity and purpose. Explore below how RECLAIM can be applied to the specific challenges you’re navigating.
RECLAIM Your Life After
Introducing RECLAIM: 7 Keys To Change Your Life
The Story of Eli & Marisa
Eli and Marisa weren’t in crisis because of one big blow-up. It was the slow drip of everyday strain that wore them down.
Bills piled up. Eli picked up extra shifts to cover the shortfall, then numbed his exhaustion with a few too many drinks after work. Marisa carried the invisible weight of parenting – school projects, late-night fevers, endless laundry – while her own career dreams gathered dust. Their arguments became less about the issues at hand and more about the growing distance between them.
Instead of reaching for each other, they each retreated: Eli to the bottle and late nights scrolling, Marisa to her quiet resentment, the never-ending to-do list, and a developing friendship with a boyfriend from her past. Love was still there, buried under fatigue, financial worry, and parental roles; but it felt harder and harder to find.
This is where many couples get stuck – not in the heated moments, but in the erosion of connection through neglect, avoidance, and blame. Relationship killers don’t always shout.
Sometimes they whisper.
That’s were RECLAIM comes in. RECLAIM is about saying no to resignation. It’s about choosing to pause, notice, and rebuild – one key at a time.
The RECLAIM Framework At A Glance
RECLAIM is 7 Keys designed to help couples move from disconnection back to possibility. It recognizes that relationship distress sometimes comes from the big problems – betrayal, addiction, or insidious family problems; but also comes from the small mundane everyday struggles like financial pressure, parenting exhaustion, or unhealthy coping. Each letter of RECLAIM—Regulate, Examine, Claim, Love, Author, Integrate, Maintain—offers a pathway to pause the old patterns, take ownership, and create new ways of relating. It’s not about quick fixes, but about building steady, lasting change together.
R — Regulate Your System
Before you can work on the relationship, you have to steady yourself. For Eli and Marisa, that meant noticing how stress hijacked their bodies—short tempers, raised voices, shut-downs. Regulation is the foundation: calming your system so you can actually hear and be heard.
E — Examine Your Patterns
Every couple develops loops. For Eli and Marisa, money stress triggered shame, which triggered drinking, which triggered distance. Examining those patterns together shifts the focus from “what’s wrong with you” to “what’s happening between us.”
C — Claim Responsibility
Healing requires ownership. Both Eli and Marisa had to acknowledge their part: Eli naming that alcohol was numbing instead of helping, Marisa admitting her silence punished instead of protected. Responsibility moves the conversation from blame to change.
L — Love with Limits
Boundaries aren’t walls—they’re safety lines. Marisa realized she could set limits around how and when they discussed money. Eli accepted that drinking couldn’t be part of problem-solving. Loving with limits means protecting the relationship by protecting yourself, too.
A — Author Your Story
The story they were telling themselves was bleak: “We’re failing.” But stories can be rewritten. Authoring your story is about choosing the narrative you want to live into: teammates again, working through the hard stuff side-by-side.
I — Integrate What You’ve Learned
Insights fade if they don’t take root in daily life. For Eli and Marisa, integration meant small adjustments—a weekly check-in, a shared budget routine, clearer boundaries around alcohol. Change becomes real when it’s woven into ordinary rhythms.
M — Maintain Your Momentum
Relationships don’t transform in a single breakthrough. Momentum is about returning to the work, even after setbacks. Eli and Marisa knew stress and exhaustion weren’t going away, but they now had a map forward. They weren’t perfect—but they weren’t stuck.